Aug 24 2013

Six Reasons to Blame Others

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Do you tend to blame others when something goes wrong in your life? Do you feel that things that happen around you are not in your control? Do you have a hard time accepting responsibility for your life? Now you don’t need to anymore!

When you blame others you give up your power to change.
–Dr. Robert Anthony



Image courtesy of Kittikun Atsawintarangkul / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of Kittikun Atsawintarangkul / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

1. You don’t have to admit you’re wrong.

We all know that it’s hard to admit we’re wrong. It’s humbling and sometimes embarrassing. So why do it if it’s going to make us feel badly? Just blame the other person – let him or her take the blame. You shouldn’t have to deal with it. It’s too hard.

2. You don’t have to accept any responsibility.

If you take the blame yourself, or accept responsibility, that means you’re going to have to do something. What if it’s something that’s out of your control? Then you definitely don’t want the responsibility! Just go about your business and see what happens. Maybe things will turn out just fine and you don’t have to worry. If things get worse, you can deal with it then.

3It explains why you are the way you are.

You may have had a difficult childhood. If they had raised you better, you wouldn’t have turned out the way you did. Anyway, there’s nothing wrong with you – you’re the result of your environment. Why should you take the blame? Just because you’re an adult now doesn’t mean that you have a choice in the matter. You have every right to be bitter about the way your mother treated you. No need to make excuses for your anger issues – you can’t help it.

4. Everyone will accept you and not expect anything.

What a relief – no one will have any expectations of you, so you can just do what you want. …within reason, of course. If you don’t accept the responsibility for the way you are, or the situation, then how could you ever meet their expectations? That’s such a freeing thought, isn’t it? What a concept!

5. People will stop giving their advice or opinions.

It’s obvious that you won’t take their advice or listen to their opinions, so they won’t even try. Why should they offer advice when nothing is your fault and you cannot do anything about it? Imagine a life without having to listen to others spew off about what they think!

6. You don’t have to try to improve.

What’s the use? It’s not your fault! If others hadn’t gotten in the way, or if they’d behaved differently, you wouldn’t be in this mess. If your parents had been different, you wouldn’t have turned out to be so negative! Why bother improving – it’s just the way you are! And besides, trying to make changes to improve is just too hard.


Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments
gives you the power to change them.
~Byron Katie



I’d like to hear from YOU! What have you learned from blaming others and not taking responsibility? What have you learned about being responsible for your own behaviour? Please leave a comment ~ I’d love to hear from you.


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  1. Roni

    What an enjoyable post Betty! 🙂 It was so easy to read and understand when looking at it from
    the blame others perspective.

    1. Betty

      Thanks, Roni. I agree – it’s interesting when looking at it from the other person’s perspective!

      1. Roni

        Hmmmm…..I think I missed a word or two in my initial comment?
        I think I meant to say “Your blog made it easy to understand
        the perspective of one who does not ‘own’ what they say or do”.
        Or something along those lines! 😉

  2. Roberta

    My dear friend, You always have such worth while words of wisdom.
    Thank you for your blog as I always get something from it. Will pass this one on to my oldest.
    You do brilliant work. Be blessed and may the Lord pour blessing on you from people and places you coukdn’t believe.

    Love ya………Roberta

    1. Betty

      Thanks for your kind words, Roberta.

  3. Viola

    Great post Betty!

    Some people are masters at the blaming game. I wonder though if they truly feel good about it or is at some level they know it’s wrong.
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    1. Betty

      Good thought, Viola. I’ve known a few ‘blamers’ in my life and have even lived with a few! I think they actually thought that they were right and thought that they had no control over their own lives. It is pretty sad! How do you convince them?

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