Mar 05 2013


We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.
~Dolly Parton


It’s all about ME!

I’m in a transition right now. It sounds like the story of my life! Some transitions have been tough for me – I’m sure you can identify. Some we have no control over, like losing a job, losing a loved one, changing jobs or homes. Some we do have control over, but they are still transitions and take time to adjust to. Like change, transitions are inevitable!

Let me tell you about my present one. In the fall I had been very busy with my part-time teaching job, my coaching business and partnering in another business. In January I sold my share of the other business, leaving me wondering what to do next. Since so much of my time had been spent on that business, I had not been marketing my coaching, which meant that I only had a few clients.


Flying into my next opportunity

Rest and Relax

At the end of January, I had a wonderful time of rest and relaxation in Mexico. It was the beginning of my time of transition. I had decided that when I returned, I would not try to rush into the ‘next thing’, but just coast along for awhile and see what comes my way.

At the present time, I teach two mornings a week and do a bit of coaching. I feel like I’m on holidays; it feels rather strange. I’ve been here before, but this time is different. This one was a choice that I made, so the emotions of it were bitter sweet. (Other transitions that were out of my control came with the baggage of having to overcome the negative emotions and let go of what happened ‘to’ me.) This transition actually feels good in the sense that it’s much more pleasant when we think we have had a say and we’re somewhat in control of the situation.

But it is also a bit unnerving because I have no idea of what my future will look like. And I have the type of personality that likes to have a plan and be prepared!

How am I handling this transition?

I’m looking at my options: keep my part-time job, focus on my coaching business and build up that practice again, look for a new opportunity to get involved in, or enjoy my life the way it is now. (The way it is now sounds wonderful, but it wouldn’t be long before I was totally bored. And it doesn’t pay the bills.)

Here’s what I’ve come up with. I will:

    • Enjoy the time I have right now
    • Be open to new things
    • Not rush into anything
    • Be patient
    • Reflect
    • Meditate
    • Pray
    • Think positively
    • Not worry
    • Wait …and wait …and enjoy the wait
    • Every day, do what’s important for that day
    • Be grateful

Because of my faith in and relationship with God, I’ve decided that I will trust Him to guide me. When something comes across my path, I will pursue it until I have enough information to make a informed decision. The most important thing about being in a transitional state is to stay calm and peaceful. Enjoy the present moments, knowing that there will be a breakthrough or an answer just around the corner. Take the opportunity to rest and relax – busy days are ahead.


 Do you have any other advice or tips for me?

I’m sure each of you have been through a transition at some time – how did you handle it?
Please leave me a comment.



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  1. Donna Grainger

    Well, as one who has been known to have a propensity for “rushing into things”, you probably won’t be wanting any tips from me! I think you are a great teacher & so patient with the ESL folks, so maybe keep on that path, just more of it. Wonderful blog — really enjoy reading what you have to say.

    1. Betty

      Thanks for your kind words, Donna. I do enjoy teaching!

  2. Viola

    You got all the angles covered pretty much Betty. I think if you are happy, in a good mood and grateful you will be open to new opportunities and will know which one feels right.
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    1. Betty

      Viola – thanks for the encouragement. I am confident that there will be new opportunities. Actually, I am looking forward to them. Life is not boring!

  3. Joy

    Hi Betty,

    It looks as if you have all your bases covered. I know about rushing into things and then going splat, so look after you in the meantime whilst life’s next adventure comes along, as it will.

    Warm regards


    1. Betty

      Thanks, Joy. In the past I was famous for rushing into the next thing, almost without thinking much about it. And you’re right – I went ‘splat’. Sounds like you’ve had experience! Thanks for the positive note.

  4. Ellen Smith

    Thank you, Betty! Your words inspired me and were exactly what I needed as I am awaiting the birth of my first grandchild. My daughter is 10 days past her due date and hoping to go into labor naturally before she is induced at 2 weeks past. It has been hard to be patient but that is the best advice.
    Warmest wishes,

    1. Betty

      Ellen – waiting is hard, isn’t it? Especially when it’s out of your control! I hope that grandchild arrives SOON! Keep me posted.

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